City of
Suppose you are the city manager of a thriving community of
67,000 whose motto is a “City of
Alas, you have a long hidden personal secret. Since childhood, you have felt more like a woman than a man and have cross-dressed for years when vacationing out-of-state. Your wife is aware of your gender challenge but your 13 year old son is not. You are, of course, deeply concerned about how your son will be treated if it becomes known in the community that you are trans-gender and may even become a woman. After much anguishing about the situation, you decide to begin gender reassignment discreetly. The hormone treatments go well but the change in your body begins to be evident when you find that you can no longer keep up with the police chief during your weekly jogging with him.
What should you do? Should you bring the police chief into your confidence? What about the mayor who has always been a good friend and strong supporter? Should you approach other members of the city commission? The deputy city manager?
Since you manage a self-proclaimed city of progress, you are confident that city employees and the community at large will accept you as a woman if that moment arrives. Still, as an intelligent, high profile public official, you worry that the media may discover your secret before you have had time to educate your friends and city employees about trans-gender challenges. What should you do?
Source: Based on a real case, see St. Petersburg Times,